Guest: Kylea Maloney
Guest Bio: Kylea is a Kinesiologist and Wellness Coach based on the Gold Coast in Queensland. With a natural gift for connecting with people, she is passionate in her work to support and empower you to experience positive change in your life.
Kylea will talk about kinesiology.
Katherine Lodge: Thank you for listening to Health Professional Radio. I’m Katherine and today our guest is Kylea Maloney. After 10 years of struggling with chronic stress, pain, fatigue and illness, Kylea came to the conclusion that something had to give. Kylea is now a talented life coach, Kinesiologist practitioner specializing in mind, body, medicine based in the Gold Coast. And she is here to talk to us today about Kinesiology. Welcome to our show Kylea.
Kylea Maloney: Hi Katherine, thanks for having me.
KL: Now before we get started, just an overview of what you do and what is kinesiology?
KM: Certainly. Kinesiology it is a bit of difficult of thing to explain sometimes but it is the main core that I work with my coaching in helping people to relieve stress in their body and break them thru their barriers. So really it’s all about muscle-testing so we’re using the muscles in the body as an indicator of where you’re holding onto stress. So we can at a physical level, we can look out where the body is not working structurally but testing lots of different muscles and seeing which ones is working as they’re supposed to, if they’re in homeostasis or not. But interestingly and where I love getting into the kinesiology side of it, is working from an emotional stress response. So it’s where we can be talking about things and detecting changes in the way the muscles are corresponding in your body to give us some insight as to where your holding unto emotional stress so we can be talking about you know something that happened or something that’s coming up in life and find out what it is that’s stressing your body at even though, intellectually you might understand it. It’s possible for it to still have stress response in your body. So kinesiology itself is about that investigating where your body’s holding stress and then we use a variety of techniques to be able to help you to release that stress.
KL: Right, thanks for explaining that. And for our listeners that don’t know, with kinesiology with the muscle-testing, I had it done in the past. There are little vials that you use and things like that, can you explain about that?
KM: Okay. I actually don’t use the vials – that is one way – I mean I use other techniques. Well it’s the same technique but the people that are using the vials are just testing against your body’s reaction to certain things in those vials but certainly that’s just an example of how they’re applying the kinesiology. So the essence and the thing that we all have in common is that we use the muscle-testing. So usually it’s like one of the arm muscles that we use and we test if it’s working and it in homeostasis, so there’s in a certain way that we tweak it and press it to test if it’s responding naturally and without interference. And then when we start introducing different stresses, so in your case and in your experience, your practitioner would have introduced little vials of perhaps chemicals or foods or allergens into your physical that is basically placing it on the body and noticing how your body reacts to that. I mean I can do that but I tend to work a lot more with the emotional side of it.
KM: So we’ll test with different, just like when we introduced those vials for you. We could ask you about different emotions and different things that are going on or pointing to different areas of the body to see is it your shoulder that causing the stress? Because although you might have the pain in your shoulder, the pain might be coming from different points. So, I use a lot of acupressure points in Chinese like the traditional Chinese medicine, meridians and acupressure points. So I use a lot of those different points, different physiological points in the body to tell me whether there might be stress in different organs or different regions.
KM: So same concept. Where we’re using the muscle-testing and we’re just looking at what it is that might be stressing your body and causing your body to hold onto stress.
KL: I see and thanks for explaining that as well. And in terms of blockages and stress, so you’re saying that perhaps someone with a chronic illness or chronic pain I should say, or a niggling injury – you can pinpoint a blockage and stress area, is that what you’re saying?
KM: Yes. So someone with chronic pain, I mean there are different reason that we have pain. It could be just at a physical level, it could be you’ve done you know a day in the garden and you’ve got a full shoulder and it’s just not fixing up so it could be physically that that muscle is just a little bit stuck or you know whatever reason the body isn’t bringing its attention toward it and responding and fixing it up. So sometimes we do what’s physically like tweaking the muscles, working with it, meridian lines and acupressure point” to stimulate the body to fix it manually. But through the testing, we can determine if it’s a physical, is it that stress stuck at the physical level or is it an emotional level. Is it something there, if there’s an underlying cause behind it that it might be the energy flow that’s not working. It might be that you keep thinking about a certain thing that triggers the stress response in your body which then follows on just like a domino effect that follows on them and causing that arm to not function properly. In which case, fixing it at the physical level isn’t gonna fix it permanently. You might get relief today…
KM: But if you go and put yourself back into the environment that was triggering that response for you, then you’re likely to re-trigger that stress response and could find yourself back in pain. So we look at removing the underlying stresses so that your body can get back to being able to correct itself as it already knows how to do.
KL: Right, I see. Because I wondered why some of my friends, they talk about their kinesiologist and they say, “Oh I have a problem in my relationship, I want to go see my kinesiologist.”
KL: And whenever they say, “Oh I saw my kinesiologist” and when they tell me about it, it sounds more like a counseling session and that… you know.
KM: It is. Well it can be and because we talked earlier a lot of chiropractors use kinesiology and generally they’re looking for those structural stresses and you know the facilities you know with how they do their treatments quite a lot of them look at the emotions underneath as well though. I tend to work much more from the emotional point of view. So we’re looking at what patterns and what are the stress patterns that you’re triggering in your body. Because they become so subtle after a while, we don’t notice them anymore. I’ve seen a lot of people that have already been to counselors and psychologists and you know often when I start talking about you know how to resolve some of the stresses because I like doing the life coaching side of things as well because I think this is a very important part for moving on through their stresses. And often I’ll say, “Yeah I understand. Intellectually I understand the situation. I know that I shouldn’t do this and I should do that. But for some reason I just can’t stop myself or you know the words come out of my mouth and I get angry or I can’t stop myself from feeling this way.” And you know, there’s a little skill of being tuned into your body and being really aware of what your body is holding onto and learning those techniques because I help you to release those stresses while you’re in our sessions but you know it’s very important to me that you have some techniques to take away, whether it be meditation, whether it be awareness or just breathing exercises to help you resolve those stresses. And that maybe enough for you, the interest thing is then to be stay aware, “Well I feel better. I feel more relaxed.” And you should go about your day, notice when it kicks back in because you know this is epidemic out there. There are people who are so stressed, exhausted, overworked. And the hard thing is that it’s socially acceptable to be like that. So you hear a lot of people discounting the stresses that they feel because they’re like, “Well what can I do with it? This is just normal,” you know. And so they tend to switch off and after a while, those stresses just become white noise and that just fade into the background and you don’t notice that you’re carrying all those little stresses. And that’s a really dangerous place to be and because that’s where things start building up. It’s just like having you know a bucket of stress and your body can’t cope with so much and you might go for years and years where you’ve been able to cope with this and cope with that. And you’re really resilient and you’re able to bounce back and all of a sudden you get to a stage in your life and something happens. It might be an accident or an illness or an emotional trauma that happens. And after that point, it’s just like your body has stopped working. Like you’re finding that you can’t digest wheat very well but last year you were fine with it. So why is it that you used to be able to do it but you can’t do it now? And so we just look at that because sometimes it’s not logical. You can’t, we will try to look for “Okay when I eat this, this is what I respond to.” People forget to look at, “You know what, my stress bucket is just full.” And let’s just start unloading some of those stresses so that your body can breathe the sigh of relief and actually get back to functioning. So sometimes it’s the emotional stressed underneath that are causing or that the reason why your body can’t fix your shoulder now or can’t get on with life the way that it used to.
KL: Right. And that ties in with one of the topics that you talk about “Losing Control and Loving it: the Key to Happiness.” Can you tell us about that topic?
KM: Absolutely. You mentioned at the start that I suffered for many years with chronic fatigue and illness, and inflammation. And honestly in the depths of those years, I really felt totally out of control. I felt like nothing was inside of my control. I was living in a world where I just reacted to everything because I was exhausted. I was just like, “Alright just do whatever you have to do.” You know just get on with it and things were so really out of control. And there’s a tendency and understandably so, just a tendency for people in that situation to go, “Well you know, I’ve got no control there’s nothing I can do.” And we fall into self-pity, we fall into victim mode and we feel very palliative about getting ourselves out of this situation. And you know when people come along to me in that situation, it’s not like I could say, “Oh look, it’s alright. I’ll help you get your world under control.” Because that’s not gonna happen, life is still gonna be throwing curved balls at us. People will still get sick, the economy will change, you might still lose your job. And so the skill in life is being able to be, to know that those things are still gonna happen and be okay with it. So it’s about having the skills and the understanding of how life works and a confidence in your own ability to be able to ride this highs and lows and get yourself out of that situation. Really, it’s about getting to place where you’re adaptable and you’re okay with change. And you know if anyone’s in that situation where things are really overwhelmed and exhausting at the moment, the last thing you want to happen is something else to change just like no keep everything the same and we’re falling to this trap where we start focusing on keeping everything the same. And honestly that’s exhausting and we’re building up more and more stress patterns in our body by keeping things the same rather than learning on how to adapt. So part of the reason why I do you life coaching now is because I recognize it’s so important to have those skills and you know when I’m working with clients one on one or with my workshops … “How do you get out of feeling out of control? Feeling like you’re ineffective to the world and be able to move into that.” Move into your own power, where you’re in control of your responses” because we can all know that, we can all know that. We can only have that because but not until thinking rationally – I know that I should have done this, so I should responded this way. And it’s one thing to know if it’s totally another to actually be able to transform how you feel, how do you actually get out of that then go and be able to see things in a different way. And so that’s part of it is working with the kinesiology and helping you to get out of survival mode. So you can actually start thinking clearly and rationally, free up some resources and then the other part is to having these skills to move forward, because for many years I did … that year when I was totally quite sick, I did a lot of development work and I did a lot of healing and I got very good at healing. And I did what I see what others are doing now if you get to a stage where you’re out of pain and you go, “Oh good. Finally I can get back to my old life.” And then you can plunk yourself back in your own life and after a month or two, something else goes wrong and you fall into despair again. So it’s really important to have the skills to be able to say, “Good, I’m out of pain. I’ve got a clear head. Now how, what’s the strategy for life moving forward? How can I change? How can I adapt? So that I don’t find myself back in that situation feeling out of control again.”
KL: Right, I see. Well thank you so much for sharing that with us Kylea and for those of you that are interested, I’ll be putting some contact details on our show’s post. Thank you so much again for your time today.
KM: Thank you so much for having me. It’s great to be here.