Guest: Chris Wilderboer
Guest Bio: Chris Wildeboer is the founder of Balance Central and has been working in the Wellness Industry for over 15 years – today she is one of the highest qualified Qld practitioners currently working in her field.
Chris was a Kinesiologist and from there she discovered many other techniques but the one that she has been using now for 14 plus years is R.A.W. (Rekindled Ancient Wisdom).
Chris joins us to talk about her book Balance Central in a 5 segment special.
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Katherine Lodge: Thank you for joining us for our five segment special. Chris is here to talk to us about the book “Balance Central.” We’re at our last topic which is “Acceptance.” What do you mean by ‘acceptance’ Chris?
Chris Wildeboer: (laughing) It’s a great one this one. You know, there are two areas. Firstly I guess kind a go hand in hand with the patience. Accepting that we are where we were are at. You know that we are who we are, we’re only human. We have certain capabilities just based on human evolution. You know, we are not perfect beings and we tend to accept that about ourselves. We go, “Yes. See I’m not perfect.” But the problem I come across mostly, well I’ve observed with others and I guess with me is that I used to expect everyone else to be perfect. I might have been allowed to having a bad day, but everyone else is supposed to be functioning at their best when I needed them to which of course as soon as I say that see I love your reaction, it’s like “Yeah right. Sure that’s gonna happen.” But we tend to have that level of expectation. So I’d like to use the really you know almost ordinary day, one like walking up to a take away cashier and expecting them to provide the best service you have ever received. And usually we don’t get it and we do not give them permission to be less than human or to have had a relationship break up that morning or to be I don’t know, something happened.
C: We expect them to be this perfectly functioning human being for the entire time they’re on that shift.
C: And we don’t have an acceptance level for them being less than perfect. And what that really is driven by is our judgment. You know we judge that they should be perfect and they’re not, they’re human.
C: So the “Acceptance” is about accepting that everyone is human. And I guess giving that little bit of ability for them to have had a bad day or be somewhere else in their head when they go to have a conversation with us or wanting to, I know I do it with my husband a lot. Sometimes he’s on his PC and I really want to tell him all about my day because I’m ready to offload and all he wants to do is have a look at that eBay item that he put a bid on.
K: Right. You know, that is very important.
C: Well it is, it is. And I go, “Well could you just pay me attention because I need your attention.” And it becomes all about me.
C: When in actual fact, if I could just accept that he just needed to do that for five minutes and I could sit and wait for five minutes, then he would absolutely be able to pay me his full attention.
C: And so it’s really about ‘acceptance’ of others and what they might need. I think, a really big part of me putting that chapter together is an ability for us to think about to stop making the world revolve around ourselves.
C: And to let it be about others as well.
C: So we can start to accept others in a way that we accept us not to be perfect, that is really it. In fact what I’ve really like to share is one quote that I have out of my book that I feel really sums up all of it really. So can I share that now?
K: Yeah, of course.
C: “We all have lessons to learn, messages to receive and responsibility to show up in the present. Allow yourself to be human and realize that so is everyone else around you.” And that to me is what the ‘acceptance’ is all about.
K: Right and that’s a really good note to actually end on. Actually, I can’t think of anything else except where can we get your book Chris?
C: Well my book is available on Amazon. It’s in Kindle format.
C: There is a direct link on my balancecentral.com.au website on the homepage. You can’t miss it. There’s a video and a ‘buy now’ button immediately under the video. So you can go directly to that Amazon or you can easily Google “Balance Central.” Well google “Balance Central” and you get a whole file of different things I’ve done. But if you go to Amazon and search for “Balance Central.” Apparently there is only one book called “Balance Central” so that is available on Amazon.
K: And we’ll be putting some link with this interview as well so you can also click through there. Thank you so much for staying with us for all five segments and for those of you that are listening please go out and get the book if you would like to know more. And thanks again Chris for your time.
C: Thank you Katherine. It’s been an absolute honor to be part of this series.