Chris Wildeboer – Boundaries part 1 of 5
Presenter: Katherine
Guest: Chris Wilderboer
Guest Bio: Chris Wildeboer is the founder of Balance Central and has been working in the Wellness Industry for over 15 years – today she is one of the highest qualified Qld practitioners currently working in her field.
Chris was a Kinesiologist and from there she discovered many other techniques but the one that she has been using now for 14 plus years is R.A.W. (Rekindled Ancient Wisdom).
Segment Overview
Chris joins us to talk about her book Balance Central in a 5 segment special.
Transcription
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Katherine Lodge: Thanks for listening to Health Professional Radio. My name is Katherine and today I’m joined by Chris Wildeboer. Chris is the founder of Balance Central and has been working in the Wellness Industry for over 15 years. Today she’s one of the highest qualified Queensland practitioners currently working in her field. Chris was a Kinesiologist and from there she discovered many other techniques and one that she’s been using for the past 14 years plus is R.A.W which stands for “Rekindled Ancient Wisdom.” Chris joins us here today to talk about her book “Central Balance” in a 5 segment special. Welcome to our show Chris.
Chris Wildeboer: Hi Katherine. The book is actually called “Balance Central” but I kind of like it around the other way ‘Central Balance.’
K: Oh did I say that?
C: Yeah, but that’s okay.
K: It’s a moment of reflex you know or something (chuckles)
C: No, that’s fine. I think that those two words can be inverted in some respect because it is. The book is about finding your center and what keeps you balanced, so perfect.
K: Before we get in to the actual book which I’d love to, we’re doing a five segment special on the main chapters. Before we get into that, can you tell us a little bit about what a RAW consultant is?
C: Sure. A RAW consultant, I kind of came up with that word because no one else had a label for me.
K: Right.
C: The technique was actually developed by two girls in Sydney, Pam Myers and Sally Worth, and when they sent it forward to Brisbane back in 1999 I happened to put my hand up and go and study this technique. What it is, it combines muscle testing and energetic work…
K: Right.
C: So it’s different from anything else I kind have come across. A lot of people will go, “Oh that sounds like body talk or sounds like a kinesiology or is that like reiki?” And there’s all these comparisons and in all honesty RAW is simply about accessing your entire energy system which I can explain a little bit further. But it’s accessing everything about you and finding where the imbalances are within us.
K: Right.
C: That is as simple as it is.
K: Okay. So yeah, could you tell us a little bit more about that Chris? Like when you say, what is the process that someone would go thru in order to access this energy and to be able to pinpoint where they’re lacking in certain areas?
C: Sure. Well, the actual process either uses the physical body very briefly at the beginning of the process and we touch some points over the physical body. So it’s about like acupuncture points, access certain parts of our energy system, so does this technique but it does it a little differently. So by touching those points, it essentially wakes up that area of our energy and says, “Okay now we’re gonna open up the emotional being, now we’re gonna open up the physical body, now we’re goanna open up the inner child.” And the list goes on. So there’s a whole lot of areas about our parts of our being and there’s also a part of ourselves that we really can have access to because all of those areas are contributing to every moment in our life.
K: Right, I see.
C: So we access all of those and then we’re able to find where everything is. So it’s a bit like opening up the front door to your house and having access to all the rooms in your house, not just standing on the veranda and looking at the paint job on the…
K: Right, I see. Oh okay, thanks for explaining that. And Chris I know you’ve been working in the industry for over 15 years and now it has led you to putting ideas on down to paper and writing this book “Balance Central.” Can you tell us what led you up to writing the book?
C: Yeah, it’s was a really interesting little process to get to putting this book together. I had been claiming for a few years that I wasn’t going to write a book. And that’s really interesting because it’s one of the things that I help others with when they say “I’m just not goanna to that. It’s my limit that I’m just not doing it.” And yet as I started to work more intensely on myself thru this technique, I suddenly had avenues open up that I didn’t even realize were there. So what happened is that I’m actually really comfortable in conversations and talking to people but I’m not very comfortable in writing. So I actually worked with someone and I spoke the book. So I recorded the book which took me only a day and they needed some editing and then a few months later, we’re able to release it as an eBook. So that was actually the lead up to getting this book down, so from start to finish it was probably three months.
K: Wow. I think that such a great and for our listeners that are interested in this process, I think that’s a great way and some ways that people don’t necessarily think about in like you said – recording, getting it transcribed, working with an editor, and things like that. So thanks for letting us know about that the process that you went through. And yes, three months is quite good considering some people who take years to write a book, right?
C: Yeah. And I think what’s interesting about the book is really that it is about the words that needed to said at the moment at the time it was put together. When you talk to me now, I will explain things slightly differently and yet they will be in the same sort of theme and the reason that will be is that I have grown and changed and had experiences and so every way I described these concepts would be different. And then in a year’s time, it will be different again so I see that EBook was just capturing the moment in time almost of what that was.
K: I see, yeah. So there might be another book coming on the horizon sometime in the future?
C: There could be, yes. That could be in my experience in this lifetime, yes.
K: Now getting straight into the book now, I wanted to talk about the first chapter, “Boundaries” is the title of that main chapter. Can you tell us, I mean a lot of us can probably guess what perhaps ‘boundaries’ mean but can you explain to us what it is?
C: Sure. “Boundaries,” I felt there were two areas that needed to be identified particularly. One is our “own personal boundaries” that we choose. I’m implying by that, that when we get to adulthood we decide what a boundary is and that we’ve decided, “No we’re never gonna jump out of that plane while it’s moving.” And then the other ‘boundary’ is the ones that we’ve had placed around us by others. And the reason I felt the need to explain the two of them and why there were both different and important is that we often accept the boundaries that are being placed around us by others as our own. And until we distinguish that subtle difference, we can’t choose what is truly ours. But I have to start with what are the boundaries that others have put around to say that you are this person. So let’s use me as a great example “I’m never writing a book.” Who created that? Well that probably then should back to I don’t know, failing English.
K: Uh huh.
C: Never gonna write anything but I was great at public speaking. So I had this feel in me and I can’t distinguish it necessarily as a belief or emotion or anything specific but I have this thing that just mean “I’m not writing a book. I don’t want to write a book.” And I would say it over and over again and people say “Oh Chris you should do an article again.” I say, “No, I’m not writing anything.” And so I have this boundary that kept me restricted and until I could identify that it came from somewhere other than me, I couldn’t live past it.
K: Right.
C: So that was the first boundaries. Then I had to look, okay so let’s get to that one, and what is my personal boundary, am I gonna choose it’s the only book I’m I’ve ever goanna write? Or could it be the first book that I write because I don’t know what I’m goanna do in the next 20 years?
K: So what would that shift? Like you said, you weren’t, maybe you wanted to get information out there but you weren’t that interested like you said in article writing or that wasn’t your first initial natural instinct to go towards writing a book, right? What made you make that switch? Was there something that prompted you that you found “oh okay maybe the, I don’t know what you call it. The reward or would be the achievement far outweighed what you previously thought or what was that switch point for you?
C: It wasn’t really a conscious decision. I had a few people tap me on the shoulder and say, “Chris I’d really like to hear what you have to say.”
K: Right.
C: And I said, “Well that’s great. I’m presenting at these particular groups.” And they go, “Oh I can’t make it.” I go, “Okay, well what other options can I get this information to this people?” And I didn’t wake up one morning and go, “Excellent, I’m gonna write a book.”
K: Right.
C: Because I don’t. I had very conscious thoughts about not writing a book. So what I’ve been doing in the background is that I had been clearing my energy, clearing my unconscious in ways that I didn’t even realize because consciously I only had a certain view. But I was clearing and working in the background and suddenly this, literally people showed up in my life that said, “Hey Chris, have you ever thought that maybe we could do it this way? If you want to share this information with others, maybe you could do it this way.”
K: Right.
C: And when they said that, it wasn’t a struggle for me to hear it because I’ve been cleaning away my unconscious that filters on the oh, the piles of the list and emotions that have been sitting in the background there, working their way keeping me in that little track that I’ve been on. By clearing that away, suddenly different tracks appeared and I could choose what I’ve wanted. So it wasn’t really a conscious thing. I didn’t write the book because I wanted the acclaim or needed a credibility or anything, any motivation like that. It was simply that somebody wanted to know information I might have.
K: Right. And I mean you mentioned a little bit earlier, that maybe in adulthood a lot of people have figured out their boundaries and I just wanted to talk a little bit more about that because I don’t know. You know more than I do and I think there are people who have very set boundaries and they know what is okay and not okay and how they like to be treated etc. And then there are other people with more blurred boundaries, although physically they’re of a certain age, they’re still trying to find their way. Do you know what I’m trying to say? What I’m trying to ask?
C: I think I do. I think that both can exist. And I think that depending on the different area in your life, I don’t know maybe something about if someone choosing to have a family and they have a bit of a blurred area around the relationship so the family thing hasn’t quite kicked in yet and then it kicks in let’s say late 30’s and then they still question whether they can have a family. That universal, their life or whatever something happens around them, where suddenly they do have a family. So there can be some blurred boundaries around but what I found is if people are wanting a particular thing, if they set some clear decision sin their own self…
K: Right.
C: They get to have a clearer idea about what those boundaries could be. So, and I also think that sometimes in those boundaries we stick to what they are because they’re our comfort. We know what it means for us to be in that and I like to think about boundaries are the way of stretching our comfort zone. So instead of it being a boundary that we are – have a big six foot brick wall around us that we can never find a way through, maybe we can have a small area that we can stick through and we might be able to stick back behind that boundary as well. So the distinction on the boundaries is more about just seeing that there are boundaries because when we can see that something is in place, then we can choose if we want to do something about it or not.
K: Yes, I see.
C: But if we can’t see the brick wall, we can’t see that there is something stopping us. That which I guess if I use the brick wall analogy, we often have the invisible brick walls that we can’t see through, well, that stop us and we can’t see them.
K: Right.
C: And it’s about making those almost a solid brick wall so that we can go, “Aha! That’s the stuff that’s been stopping me.”
K: Yeah, I see. And try to figure out how to break through that if need be. Well thanks so much Chris for letting us know about the first chapter. We’ll be back shortly with the second. Thanks.
